Relationship conflict or interpersonal conflict is a natural outcome of human interaction. Two people in an intimate relationship have different personalities, values, expectations, and attitudes toward problem-solving; these arise from having different life experiences. When you interact with your partner who does not always share your opinions or goals, conflict can result. It is impossible to get rid of conflict. The problem is not conflict itself, but rather how we deal with it.
Unresolved conflict can result in tension, increased conflict, resentment, then dissolution of the relationship. The problem is not conflict itself, but rather how we deal with it.
The good news is effective conflict management strategies can be learned and mastered.
Conflict management strategies based on mutual respect and understanding which foster intimacy and security lead to healthy and enduring relationships. Thus, the type of communication that the parties engage in during disagreements may well have a significant effect on whether conflict management has positive or negative outcomes.
Positive outcomes may include:
- Reduced anxiety and tension when expressing disagreement
- Increased emotional closeness
- Improved communication skills
- Understanding each party’s opinion by having meaningful and open discussion
- Learning how to have constructive conflict or conflict that results in a positive outcome
- Demonstrating positive conflict resolution as an example to the children
(Source: Psychology Today)
If you think you and your spouse or partner can benefit from Couples Counseling, please contact me. Allow me to help you resolve the conflicts that is preventing you from having the relationship you both desire.